True Masculinity - Defined

Or The Antithesis To the Influencer And Grifter Propaganda & Lies

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Defined

If you’ve read through past posts, you’ll have noticed that the term “True Masculinity” is used quite a bit. It’s intentional and has raised questions in comments, about its meaning or definition.

Simply put, “True Masculinity” is the antithesis to what “masculinity” has been turned into over the past decades - perverted, demoralized, antagonistic and diluted - by radicals, grifters, influencers, and profiteers - which they all are.

You’ll also see the term “True Femininity” used, which is just the other side of the same coin and done in the same vein. The same damage and perversion have happened to femininity and there are women out there working to reclaim and redefine this ground.

We hope to have guest articles from some of these amazing women, sharing their perspectives and knowledge in the future.

Until then here are a few select posts, that stand in opposition, to the division being peddled in the public square today - Franziska, Tara, Emily (this is a long one but well worth her great perspectives), Talie, Angela (this in particular celebrates True Femininity, at the expense of no one - but brings the divisive, knee jerk reaction in comments just the same).

You can think of these “new” definitions and their use, in the same way “Real Food” is used, when explaining the differences between whole fruits, vegetables and high quality, clean meats and highly processed, chemical laden, amalgamations that Big-Food calls “food”. To further underscore the analogy, all you have to do is pull up any 5-ingredient bread recipe online and compare it to any bagged, loaf of bread on a store shelf. The extra 30 ingredients were never needed but added for profit and now are the unhealthy norm.

The descriptor “True” signifies, as it always has, clear, clean, real and solid foundations of non-perverted basics and points of reference.

“True Masculinity” may share some of the same terms and premises, as that of today’s popular narratives. However, at its core its almost exclusively devoid of victimhood, whining, power siphoning, unhealthy levels of selfishness, infantilization, willful ignorance and lack of self-understanding - self regulation.

No, you won’t find that in Webster’s, so save the time.

The Paths Forward

The paths forward exist in the middle spaces and middle grounds, between Men & Women. They avoid the extreme fringes, where the division, hate and lack of understanding exists. They’re instead predicated on one sole and guiding credo:

“We were not created to hate one another - we were taught to”.

How simple is that, right??

Of course, it’s not that simple, because we’ve all been steeped in this division and hatred our whole lives. While many recognize, understand and then work to push back against it, it still seeps in and sometimes floods, when we’re faced with someone, gleefully dancing in those destructive fringes.

In these cases, True Masculinity is unwavering, in its content and application. Just because you’re faced with someone deeply adversarial, does not mean everything gets tossed out the window and you engage in “well if they're going to call me names, I’m going to do the same”. This is when Truly Masculine Men stand in their power, restraint, understanding, integrity, strength, intelligence, and even leadership. This will be discussed more later, but the important part here is this type of man is rooted and grounded in this Masculinity and cannot be drawn into a devolution of it, that would compromise all he stands for.

Pillars

There’s always pillars to support a structure, and True Masculinity is no different. These will be touched on in later posts, as well.

• The Credo - “We were not created to hate one another - we were taught to”.

  It’s pretty self-explanatory, but sometimes an explanation helps. We can look to children for this. Toddlers, who’ve yet to grasp reading, listening, comprehension skills or context, do not have a natural dislike for one another - between sexes or because of their sexes. They may dislike when another toddler has toys, treats or attention that they don’t, but this dissatisfaction is not dependent on them being boys or girls. So, if it’s not an innate hatred or dislike of the opposite sex, then it’s a learned one and worse - an intentionally taught one.

• Understanding - This is twofold.

  Doing the work to gain an understanding of Women and their God given, natural and unique complexities, wants, needs and desires. The hint no one should need here is, these are and were meant to be vastly different, than those of Men.

  “But wait, there’s more” - Men, more important than understanding the above aspects of Women - which is critical - is understanding those things about yourselves!

  On the whole, Men rarely do introspective work. They rarely understand or admit they have issues, hurts, fears, anger and shame from childhood that span and affect their entire lives. Many times, these issues aren’t apparent or obvious but manifest themselves in relationships - of all types.

  Without an understanding of and work to resolve these issues, the barriers to living in True Masculinity and living a life filled with joy, satisfaction and love, will be numerous and monumental.

  I couldn’t compose a more poignant and brilliant allegory of this premise, than what Tamara has done here.

• Someone Winning Does Not Require Someone Losing - When it comes to Men & Women, we’ve been told the opposite our entire lives - “there must be a loser”.

  This obviously points back to the first and second pillars.

  Ask yourself this, “If my wife, mother, girlfriend, daughter or other woman I know wins in some way and I don’t, am I such a weak, insecure, damaged and shame filled man, that it throws me into an emotional, intellectual and logical tailspin??

  Feeling slighted, left out, cheated or shown up because someone else won and you didn’t - are forms of victimhood and infantilization, both of which are rooted in deeper, damaged places and need to be looked at.

Wrapping Up

None of us is perfect.

We’re works in progress and it’s the work that counts and where the growth happens. The Man who’s working toward and in True Masculinity, is one that understands:

• Men & Women were intentionally created different from one another, in almost every way, in order to fit with and complement one another naturally. The innate differences are not flaws, defects or burdens but strengths, to be shared and enjoyed together.

• Doing the work to understanding himself and Women in his life is critical, to be able to correctly carry, present and apply his Masculinity.

• The orchestrated division, between himself and Women has been a long and well-run operation. It’s been carried out intentionally by militant and radical Men, Women, industries and governments. These efforts never benefit Men & Women in general but always benefit those implementing and maintaining them.

• If peace, appreciation, support and love were the societal norms between Men & Women, there’d be monumental losses of power, control, manipulation and monetary profit, for those selling the poison.

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